Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Answers to Old Wives' Tales
http://health.msn.com/health-topics/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100212344&page=1Wise
Experts reveal the truth behind the most popular (and persistent) health rumors stressing you out
By Ben Cramer, Prevention
Cola-type soft drinks can damage your kidneys.
Verdict: FACT.
Despite their global popularity, there's nothing remotely healthy about cola beverages: Drinking 16 ounces or more daily (whether diet or regular) doubles your risk of chronic kidney disease, according to a recent NIH study of more than 900 people. The researchers already knew that consuming any type of soft drink—the average American adult guzzles 59 gallons' worth per year—is associated with several risk factors for kidney disease (hypertension, diabetes, and kidney stones), but the spike in the cola category was remarkable. Experts suspect that the ingredient phosphoric acid may be the culprit; it's been repeatedly linked to "urinary changes that promote kidney stones," say the study authors. Cola has an additional knock against it: Consumption is associated with significantly lower bone density in women, increasing the risk of osteoporosis and bone fractures, says a separate study.
Bottom Line: If you're going to indulge in an occasional soda, go for Sprite, 7-Up, ginger ale, and the like—the NIH study found that noncola drinks didn't have the same impact on the kidneys. But you'll be better off if you skip soda altogether, even the sugar-free varieties: Recent research showed an association between drinking diet soda and weight gain.
"Double dipping" spreads germs from one chip to another.
Verdict: FACT.
In a classic episode of "Seinfeld," a man accused George Costanza of spreading germs by "double-dipping"—swiping a chip into a bowl of dip, taking a bite, and then dipping the same chip again. Having settled the five-second rule debate, Clemson University's Dawson decided to do the same recently with this alleged party faux pas. It turns out that George really was contaminating the other guests: Using Wheat Thins and various dips, Dawson found that a double-dip deposited thousands of saliva bacteria into the dip—and of those, 50 to 100 were later transferred through the dip to a clean cracker, presumably destined for another guest's mouth. Still unknown, however, is how long such bacteria can survive in the dip or if they can actually infect another dipper upon ingestion.
Bottom Line: You'd better be pretty comfy with your party guests. "Eating from a dip after someone has dipped twice is basically the same as kissing that person," Dawson says. Be especially wary of thin dips; the study found that the lower the dip's viscosity, the higher the rate of germ transfer from a double dip. For example, a chip's second plunge into a cheese dip is less cause for concern than a watery salsa—thicker dips apparently don't allow errant bacteria to travel as far as thinner varieties. Finally, think twice about digging into any dip at the end of the night; remnants on the sides or bottom of a bowl are most likely a highly concentrated mash of germs, Dawson says, akin to the last sip in a can of soda.
Eating locally produced honey can ease seasonal allergies.
Verdict: JURY'S OUT.
The theory seems sound: Bees in your neighborhood feed on the same pollen that gives you itchy eyes and a runny nose. That pollen gets added to the hive's honey, and ingesting it helps you build a tolerance to those allergens—or so the thinking goes. But does this really work? "We don't know—there are no studies to support it, only testimonials," says Leonard Bielory, M.D., director of the Asthma and Allergy Research Center at New Jersey Medical School. Of course, the same process could produce negative effects—bees may visit problem plants, such as poison ivy, and cause a rash in people ingesting the ivy-tainted honey. Yet anecdotal reports claim just the opposite: Some honey lovers insist that the sweetener has helped build an immunity to such reactions.
Bottom Line: Keep standard allergy remedies on hand, but feel free to enjoy local honey, too—it's a worthy replacement for other sweeteners and even has natural antibiotic properties.
Does reading in low light really hurt your eyes? How about sitting too close to the TV? (No, and no.) Why are you better off drinking exactly eight glasses of water per day? (You're not.) Thanks to quack culture, the Internet, and well-intentioned but poorly informed relatives, it's become harder than ever to separate fact from fiction. Whatever its origin, misleading health information can cause unnecessary anxiety and distract you from wellness habits that truly deserve your energy and attention. Here's a dissection of six watercooler myths that will give you all the authority you need to refute your brother's latest forwarded e-mails.
Cell phones are dangerous to use in hospitals because they can interfere with medical equipment.
Verdict: JURY'S OUT.
There's a chance that a cell phone call in the wrong spot can cause ventilators, syringe pumps, or even pacemakers to pulse incorrectly, according to a 2007 Dutch study. The researchers tested modern cell phones, including PDAs that use wireless Internet signals. After placing the phones just a few centimeters from devices, researchers found that 43% of the phones caused electromagnetic interference with critical care equipment—and a third of those instances could be potentially life-threatening to patients. But those findings countered a Mayo Clinic study a year prior that found no instances of "clinically important" interference between cell phones and medical machines. In fact, Mayo researchers advised hospitals to revise or drop their cell phone bans.
Bottom Line: Play it safe for now. Use a designated cell phone area at the hospital, which most now offer—or use a call as an excuse for a walk-and-talk outside for some fresh air and exercise. If you feel compelled to stay by a relative's side in the ER or recovery room, make sure to carry a good old-fashioned calling card to use at a pay phone.
It's safe to follow "the five second rule" for food dropped on the floor.
Verdict: FICTION.
It's probably not even safe to follow a one-second rule: The transfer of bacteria from a contaminated surface to food is almost instantaneous—or, at the very least, quicker than your reflexes. In a recent study, Clemson University food scientist Paul Dawson, Ph.D., and students contaminated several surfaces (ceramic tile, wood flooring, and carpet) with Salmonella. They then dropped pieces of bologna and slices of bread on the surfaces for as little as five seconds and as long as 60 seconds. After just five seconds, both food types had already picked up as many as 1,800 bacteria (more bad bugs adhered to the moisture-rich bologna than the bread); after a full minute, it was up to 10 times that amount.
Bottom Line: There are 76 million cases of foodborne illness annually in the United States, according to the CDC—so unless you're the only family on the block that sterilizes their floors on an hourly basis, you should refrain from eating dropped food. "Let's not forget what comes into contact with floors—people bring animal feces on their shoes into their homes," Dawson says. And don't assume that countertops are clean. Dawson's team also found that the Salmonella actually survived as long as four weeks on the test surfaces. As the recent tomato-related illnesses nationwide showed, "raw fruits and vegetables are as frequently the perpetrators of Salmonella transfer as poultry," Dawson says.
Cracking your knuckles can cause arthritis
Verdict: FICTION.
If you're suffering from osteoarthritis in your hands, it certainly has nothing to do with this nervous tic. One study at the former Mount Carmel Mercy Hospital in Detroit compared 74 people (age 45 and older) who had been chronic knuckle crackers for decades with 226 who always left their hands alone; researchers found no difference in the incidence of osteoarthritis between the two groups. But there are reasons to stop this annoying habit: The same study found knuckle crackers to be far more likely to have weaker grip strength and greater hand swelling, both of which can limit dexterity. As for osteoarthritis, that's more likely due to genetics and increasing age.
Bottom Line: Try turning your nervous energy into a less harmful habit that occupies your hands (such as doodling). If a different activity doesn't get you to stop, try putting a large rubber band around your wrist and every time you catch yourself cracking your knuckles, pull it back and let it snap as a reminder that your habit really can be harmful. Most important, get to the bottom of what's causing your nervousness in the first place—you may crack your knuckles more often at work than at home, for example—and address those sources directly.
Experts reveal the truth behind the most popular (and persistent) health rumors stressing you out
By Ben Cramer, Prevention
Cola-type soft drinks can damage your kidneys.
Verdict: FACT.
Despite their global popularity, there's nothing remotely healthy about cola beverages: Drinking 16 ounces or more daily (whether diet or regular) doubles your risk of chronic kidney disease, according to a recent NIH study of more than 900 people. The researchers already knew that consuming any type of soft drink—the average American adult guzzles 59 gallons' worth per year—is associated with several risk factors for kidney disease (hypertension, diabetes, and kidney stones), but the spike in the cola category was remarkable. Experts suspect that the ingredient phosphoric acid may be the culprit; it's been repeatedly linked to "urinary changes that promote kidney stones," say the study authors. Cola has an additional knock against it: Consumption is associated with significantly lower bone density in women, increasing the risk of osteoporosis and bone fractures, says a separate study.
Bottom Line: If you're going to indulge in an occasional soda, go for Sprite, 7-Up, ginger ale, and the like—the NIH study found that noncola drinks didn't have the same impact on the kidneys. But you'll be better off if you skip soda altogether, even the sugar-free varieties: Recent research showed an association between drinking diet soda and weight gain.
"Double dipping" spreads germs from one chip to another.
Verdict: FACT.
In a classic episode of "Seinfeld," a man accused George Costanza of spreading germs by "double-dipping"—swiping a chip into a bowl of dip, taking a bite, and then dipping the same chip again. Having settled the five-second rule debate, Clemson University's Dawson decided to do the same recently with this alleged party faux pas. It turns out that George really was contaminating the other guests: Using Wheat Thins and various dips, Dawson found that a double-dip deposited thousands of saliva bacteria into the dip—and of those, 50 to 100 were later transferred through the dip to a clean cracker, presumably destined for another guest's mouth. Still unknown, however, is how long such bacteria can survive in the dip or if they can actually infect another dipper upon ingestion.
Bottom Line: You'd better be pretty comfy with your party guests. "Eating from a dip after someone has dipped twice is basically the same as kissing that person," Dawson says. Be especially wary of thin dips; the study found that the lower the dip's viscosity, the higher the rate of germ transfer from a double dip. For example, a chip's second plunge into a cheese dip is less cause for concern than a watery salsa—thicker dips apparently don't allow errant bacteria to travel as far as thinner varieties. Finally, think twice about digging into any dip at the end of the night; remnants on the sides or bottom of a bowl are most likely a highly concentrated mash of germs, Dawson says, akin to the last sip in a can of soda.
Eating locally produced honey can ease seasonal allergies.
Verdict: JURY'S OUT.
The theory seems sound: Bees in your neighborhood feed on the same pollen that gives you itchy eyes and a runny nose. That pollen gets added to the hive's honey, and ingesting it helps you build a tolerance to those allergens—or so the thinking goes. But does this really work? "We don't know—there are no studies to support it, only testimonials," says Leonard Bielory, M.D., director of the Asthma and Allergy Research Center at New Jersey Medical School. Of course, the same process could produce negative effects—bees may visit problem plants, such as poison ivy, and cause a rash in people ingesting the ivy-tainted honey. Yet anecdotal reports claim just the opposite: Some honey lovers insist that the sweetener has helped build an immunity to such reactions.
Bottom Line: Keep standard allergy remedies on hand, but feel free to enjoy local honey, too—it's a worthy replacement for other sweeteners and even has natural antibiotic properties.
Does reading in low light really hurt your eyes? How about sitting too close to the TV? (No, and no.) Why are you better off drinking exactly eight glasses of water per day? (You're not.) Thanks to quack culture, the Internet, and well-intentioned but poorly informed relatives, it's become harder than ever to separate fact from fiction. Whatever its origin, misleading health information can cause unnecessary anxiety and distract you from wellness habits that truly deserve your energy and attention. Here's a dissection of six watercooler myths that will give you all the authority you need to refute your brother's latest forwarded e-mails.
Cell phones are dangerous to use in hospitals because they can interfere with medical equipment.
Verdict: JURY'S OUT.
There's a chance that a cell phone call in the wrong spot can cause ventilators, syringe pumps, or even pacemakers to pulse incorrectly, according to a 2007 Dutch study. The researchers tested modern cell phones, including PDAs that use wireless Internet signals. After placing the phones just a few centimeters from devices, researchers found that 43% of the phones caused electromagnetic interference with critical care equipment—and a third of those instances could be potentially life-threatening to patients. But those findings countered a Mayo Clinic study a year prior that found no instances of "clinically important" interference between cell phones and medical machines. In fact, Mayo researchers advised hospitals to revise or drop their cell phone bans.
Bottom Line: Play it safe for now. Use a designated cell phone area at the hospital, which most now offer—or use a call as an excuse for a walk-and-talk outside for some fresh air and exercise. If you feel compelled to stay by a relative's side in the ER or recovery room, make sure to carry a good old-fashioned calling card to use at a pay phone.
It's safe to follow "the five second rule" for food dropped on the floor.
Verdict: FICTION.
It's probably not even safe to follow a one-second rule: The transfer of bacteria from a contaminated surface to food is almost instantaneous—or, at the very least, quicker than your reflexes. In a recent study, Clemson University food scientist Paul Dawson, Ph.D., and students contaminated several surfaces (ceramic tile, wood flooring, and carpet) with Salmonella. They then dropped pieces of bologna and slices of bread on the surfaces for as little as five seconds and as long as 60 seconds. After just five seconds, both food types had already picked up as many as 1,800 bacteria (more bad bugs adhered to the moisture-rich bologna than the bread); after a full minute, it was up to 10 times that amount.
Bottom Line: There are 76 million cases of foodborne illness annually in the United States, according to the CDC—so unless you're the only family on the block that sterilizes their floors on an hourly basis, you should refrain from eating dropped food. "Let's not forget what comes into contact with floors—people bring animal feces on their shoes into their homes," Dawson says. And don't assume that countertops are clean. Dawson's team also found that the Salmonella actually survived as long as four weeks on the test surfaces. As the recent tomato-related illnesses nationwide showed, "raw fruits and vegetables are as frequently the perpetrators of Salmonella transfer as poultry," Dawson says.
Cracking your knuckles can cause arthritis
Verdict: FICTION.
If you're suffering from osteoarthritis in your hands, it certainly has nothing to do with this nervous tic. One study at the former Mount Carmel Mercy Hospital in Detroit compared 74 people (age 45 and older) who had been chronic knuckle crackers for decades with 226 who always left their hands alone; researchers found no difference in the incidence of osteoarthritis between the two groups. But there are reasons to stop this annoying habit: The same study found knuckle crackers to be far more likely to have weaker grip strength and greater hand swelling, both of which can limit dexterity. As for osteoarthritis, that's more likely due to genetics and increasing age.
Bottom Line: Try turning your nervous energy into a less harmful habit that occupies your hands (such as doodling). If a different activity doesn't get you to stop, try putting a large rubber band around your wrist and every time you catch yourself cracking your knuckles, pull it back and let it snap as a reminder that your habit really can be harmful. Most important, get to the bottom of what's causing your nervousness in the first place—you may crack your knuckles more often at work than at home, for example—and address those sources directly.
The Birdcage
There once was a man named George Thomas, a pastor in a Small New England town. One Easter Sunday morning he came to the Church carrying a rusty, bent, old birdcage, and set it by the pulpit. Several eyebrows were raised and, as if in response, Pastor Thomas began to speak.
"I was walking through town yesterday when I saw a young boy coming toward me swinging this bird cage. On the bottom of the cage were three little wild birds, shivering with cold and fright. I stopped the lad and asked, "What you got there son?" "Just some old birds," came the reply."What are you gonna do with them?" I asked."Take 'em home and have fun with 'em," he answered. I'm gonna tease 'em and pull out their feathers to make 'em fight. I'm gonna have a real good time.""But you'll get tired of those birds sooner or later. What will you do then?""Oh, I got some cats," said the little boy. "They like birds. I'll take 'em to them."
The pastor was silent for a moment. "How much do you want for those birds, son?""Huh??!!! Why, you don't want them birds, mister. They're just plain old field birds. They don't sing -- they ain't even pretty!""How much?" the pastor asked again.The boy sized up the pastor as if he were crazy and said, "$10?"The pastor reached in his pocket and took out a ten dollar bill. He placed it in the boy's hand. In a flash, the boy was gone.The pastor picked up the cage and gently carried it to the end of the alley where there was a tree and a grassy spot. Setting the cage down, he opened the door, and by softly tapping the bars persuaded the birds out, setting them free.
Well, that explained the empty bird cage on the pulpit, and then the pastor began to tell this story. One day Satan and Jesus were having a conversation. Satan had just come from the Garden of Eden, and he was gloating and boasting."Yes, sir, I just caught the world full of people down there. Set me a trap, used bait I knew they couldn't resist. Got 'em all!"What are you going to do with them?" Jesus asked.Satan replied, "Oh, I'm gonna have fun! I'm gonna teach them how to marry and divorce each other, how to hate and abuse each other, how to drink and smoke and curse. I'm gonna teach them how to invent guns and bombs and kill each other. I'm really gonna have fun!""And what will you do when you get done with them?" Jesus asked."Oh, I'll kill 'em," Satan glared proudly."How much do you want for them?" Jesus asked."Oh, you don't want those people. They ain't no good. Why, you'll take them and they'll just hate you. They'll spit on you, curse you and kill you!! You don't want those people!!""How much?" He asked again.Satan looked at Jesus and sneered, "All your tears, and all your blood."Jesus said, "DONE!" Then He paid the price.
The pastor picked up the cage he opened the door and he walked from the pulpit.
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"I was walking through town yesterday when I saw a young boy coming toward me swinging this bird cage. On the bottom of the cage were three little wild birds, shivering with cold and fright. I stopped the lad and asked, "What you got there son?" "Just some old birds," came the reply."What are you gonna do with them?" I asked."Take 'em home and have fun with 'em," he answered. I'm gonna tease 'em and pull out their feathers to make 'em fight. I'm gonna have a real good time.""But you'll get tired of those birds sooner or later. What will you do then?""Oh, I got some cats," said the little boy. "They like birds. I'll take 'em to them."
The pastor was silent for a moment. "How much do you want for those birds, son?""Huh??!!! Why, you don't want them birds, mister. They're just plain old field birds. They don't sing -- they ain't even pretty!""How much?" the pastor asked again.The boy sized up the pastor as if he were crazy and said, "$10?"The pastor reached in his pocket and took out a ten dollar bill. He placed it in the boy's hand. In a flash, the boy was gone.The pastor picked up the cage and gently carried it to the end of the alley where there was a tree and a grassy spot. Setting the cage down, he opened the door, and by softly tapping the bars persuaded the birds out, setting them free.
Well, that explained the empty bird cage on the pulpit, and then the pastor began to tell this story. One day Satan and Jesus were having a conversation. Satan had just come from the Garden of Eden, and he was gloating and boasting."Yes, sir, I just caught the world full of people down there. Set me a trap, used bait I knew they couldn't resist. Got 'em all!"What are you going to do with them?" Jesus asked.Satan replied, "Oh, I'm gonna have fun! I'm gonna teach them how to marry and divorce each other, how to hate and abuse each other, how to drink and smoke and curse. I'm gonna teach them how to invent guns and bombs and kill each other. I'm really gonna have fun!""And what will you do when you get done with them?" Jesus asked."Oh, I'll kill 'em," Satan glared proudly."How much do you want for them?" Jesus asked."Oh, you don't want those people. They ain't no good. Why, you'll take them and they'll just hate you. They'll spit on you, curse you and kill you!! You don't want those people!!""How much?" He asked again.Satan looked at Jesus and sneered, "All your tears, and all your blood."Jesus said, "DONE!" Then He paid the price.
The pastor picked up the cage he opened the door and he walked from the pulpit.
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It matters whose hands its in
Hands
A basketball in my hands is worth about $19. A basketball in Michael Jordan's hands is worth about $33 million. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A baseball in my hands is worth about $6. A baseball in Mark McGuire's hands is worth 19 million. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A tennis racket is useless in my hands. A tennis racket in Pete Sampras' hands is a Wimbeldon Championship. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A rod in my hands will keep away a wild animal. A rod in Moses' hands will part the mighty sea. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A sling shot in my hands is a toy. A sling shot in David's hands is a mighty weapon. It depends on whose hands it's in.
Two fish and Five loaves in my hands is a couple of fish sandwiches. Two fish and five loaves in God's hands will feed thousands. It depends on whose hands they're in.
Nails in my hands might produce a bird house. Nails in Jesus Christ's hands will produce salvation for the entire world. It depends on whose hands they're in.
So put your concerns, your worries, your fears, your hopes, your dreams, your families and your relationships in God's hands because, It depends on whose hands they're in.
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A basketball in my hands is worth about $19. A basketball in Michael Jordan's hands is worth about $33 million. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A baseball in my hands is worth about $6. A baseball in Mark McGuire's hands is worth 19 million. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A tennis racket is useless in my hands. A tennis racket in Pete Sampras' hands is a Wimbeldon Championship. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A rod in my hands will keep away a wild animal. A rod in Moses' hands will part the mighty sea. It depends on whose hands it's in.
A sling shot in my hands is a toy. A sling shot in David's hands is a mighty weapon. It depends on whose hands it's in.
Two fish and Five loaves in my hands is a couple of fish sandwiches. Two fish and five loaves in God's hands will feed thousands. It depends on whose hands they're in.
Nails in my hands might produce a bird house. Nails in Jesus Christ's hands will produce salvation for the entire world. It depends on whose hands they're in.
So put your concerns, your worries, your fears, your hopes, your dreams, your families and your relationships in God's hands because, It depends on whose hands they're in.
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Monday, August 25, 2008
IT as experienced in our high school age youth group
We had 8 visitors from B's group at Youth Group last night. The topic was IT: one ingrediant of those who have IT is Focus. Zacheus was the example our Beloved leader shared from scripture. Basically Zacheus climbed a sycamore tree so that he could see Jesus. He was short so he needed to be up above the crows to see him. Jesus sees him and says Zacheus come down from there, For tonight I am eating at your house. We think the crowd was angry and jealous when Jesus did that. Then zacheus promises to give away all the money he has and to anyone that he cheated he would pay 4 times the amount back to them.
Do you believe him? We were mostly in disbelief except two sisters; they were trusting that he meant it. One young lady said she thought Zacheus was sucking up to Jesus, so she was ticked at him.
Jesus told zacheus that today salvation had come to his house. Zacheus got IT. He had IT.He turned his life over to the will of Jesus. HUMM!
So our beloved Youth Leader put B, P and C in the hot seat to answer questions about their challenge last week; $50 for making the 65 foot shot from the opposite free throw line. Of course the guys were secretly eating up the attention. They answered with focus as part of their response so Our leader was happy. He also pointed out the support that C and P gave to B while he struggled to make it. He was proud of them for that. Then we broke into groups and talked about what makes us lose focus and what we can do to overcome it.
I was impressed with my group. They talked about losing focus on their faith. Out of all the things in life that we can lose focus on - they talked about faith. It is so refreshing that they are actually taking their relationship seriously. So they struggle with time comittments and priorities. They talked about parental pressure to do the religous things like devotions and prayers; how that makes them want to rebel and not do it. The hardest thing was the question of how to overcome it. One shared that she was always talking to Jesus and that she felt that it was just a part of her day. She swims and is really active so she has every bit the challange but she incorporated her relationship into her every day things.
WOW!!
Hope this was not too long. My goal is to let you see a glimpse of the group, hopefully without too much of my commentary so that you can feel connected still.
Next week is labor day so we have no youth group.
Do you believe him? We were mostly in disbelief except two sisters; they were trusting that he meant it. One young lady said she thought Zacheus was sucking up to Jesus, so she was ticked at him.
Jesus told zacheus that today salvation had come to his house. Zacheus got IT. He had IT.He turned his life over to the will of Jesus. HUMM!
So our beloved Youth Leader put B, P and C in the hot seat to answer questions about their challenge last week; $50 for making the 65 foot shot from the opposite free throw line. Of course the guys were secretly eating up the attention. They answered with focus as part of their response so Our leader was happy. He also pointed out the support that C and P gave to B while he struggled to make it. He was proud of them for that. Then we broke into groups and talked about what makes us lose focus and what we can do to overcome it.
I was impressed with my group. They talked about losing focus on their faith. Out of all the things in life that we can lose focus on - they talked about faith. It is so refreshing that they are actually taking their relationship seriously. So they struggle with time comittments and priorities. They talked about parental pressure to do the religous things like devotions and prayers; how that makes them want to rebel and not do it. The hardest thing was the question of how to overcome it. One shared that she was always talking to Jesus and that she felt that it was just a part of her day. She swims and is really active so she has every bit the challange but she incorporated her relationship into her every day things.
WOW!!
Hope this was not too long. My goal is to let you see a glimpse of the group, hopefully without too much of my commentary so that you can feel connected still.
Next week is labor day so we have no youth group.
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Guideline on Hugs
I found an article that I wanted to share about hugs.
I do not agree with all the different types of hugs, but it is still interesting.
The hand shake never made it to my hug list. It is just too formal and unemotional most of the time. But I have some male friends who are really uncomfortable with a tradional hug - so they will be happy that it is included in the hug list.
Any way - here is the article. I kept the by-line so credit is given to the author.
A Guide To Hugging
Learn Common Hugging Techniques And Etiquette
By Salena Quinn
A hug is a form of nonverbal communication and is the most common way to express love and affection. Everyone needs physical contact to survive, and hugging is an act of giving and receiving the support and love people need. The type of hug shared between two people can speak volumes about their relationship and can also strengthen bonds. Contrarily, a lack of hugs and other forms of physical affection can diminish the quality of romantic relationships and make some people experience increased emotional stress.
A hug is usually initiated by holding out one’s arms and waiting for the other person’s response. Don’t feel rejected if someone declines a hug. People have many different reasons for declining a hug, therefore there is no need to take it personally. Use the following guide to discover common hugging techniques and etiquette, and learn the difference between the way males and females hug.
Hug Etiquette
There are some basic, unwritten rules about hugging that most people are intuitively aware of. When deciding to hug or not to hug a person, refer to the following rules of hug etiquette:
-Always respect another person’s space.
-Ask permission before hugging someone, unless you are already on intimate terms with the person.
-Hug accordingly. Remember, there is a difference between a friendly hug and a passionate embrace. A hug between romantic partners is much different than a hug between two people who have just met.
-Never assume that it is okay to hug someone, even if you have hugged the person many times before.
-Practice good hygiene. Body odor can be offensive to the person you are embracing.
Types of Hugs
There are many different types of hugs that can be used in a plethora of situations. The type of hug two people partake in speaks volumes about their relationship. The duration of the hug, as well as the physical proximity of the two people involved determines the depth of the relationship. Below is a guide explaining common types of hugs, how to determine when it is appropriate to engage in each type of hug and instructions for performing each hug:
Me-Hug – Just as the name implies, this is a hug that you give to yourself. Simply wrap your arms around your torso and squeeze tightly.
Hand-Hug – This is the most common and frequently shared hug – a simple handshake. When in doubt about the appropriateness of hugging another person, simply extend your hand for a handshake. The hand hug is also the most appropriate form of affection in the workplace, used to congratulate or greet someone.
‘Hello’ Hug - This type of hug is usually employed when greeting a friend you have not seen for a while. This is the standard and most common type of non-intimate hug, usually lasting just a few seconds. This hug can be performed using one arm or two.
Bear Hug – A bear hug is a strong, full-body hug. This type of hug usually takes place between family members, close friends or lovers. The hugger and huggee wrap their arms tightly around each other and may rock back and forth while embracing to emphasize affectionate feelings. The duration of the hug tends to last a little longer than the standard hug, as well.
Cuddle – Cuddling involves hugging or embracing affectionately. The cuddle can also be described as a close, affectionate and prolonged embrace. Cuddling can involve stroking or caressing and is distinctive because of the duration of the hug. This type of hug typically occurs between children and adults, or lovers and can occur while sitting, standing or lying down.
Comforter – This type of hug is used to comfort someone close to the person. This hug is similar to the standard hug, however, it is distinctive because of its intensity and duration. This type of hug is usually performed by parents and close friends and is often used to console another person. The huggee may even rest his or her head on the shoulder or chest of the hugger for comfort.
Pound Hug – This type of hug is almost always performed between two males and is a combination between a handshake and a one-armed hug. The two participants aggressively slap each other on the back while embracing, as if to emphasize their masculinity. This type of hug usually lasts about one second. A hug lasting longer than a second usually makes the participants feel uncomfortable.
A-Frame Hug – This is where the two people sharing the embrace stand about a foot apart from each other and bend at the waist. Only the shoulders come into contact as the two people embrace. This type of hug is common between acquaintances or people who have just met.
Side-to-Side Hug –Two people stand next to one another, embracing around the waist or shoulders. Friends and lovers engage in this type of hug.
Cheek-to-Cheek Hug - This hug does not require the use of arms. Simply face the person you are hugging and press your cheek against his or her cheek briefly.
Reverse Hug – With the reverse hug, the hugger approaches the huggee from behind and puts his/her arms around the huggee’s waist. This type of hug is reserved for people who are in a romantic relationship.
Dancefloor Hug - This type of hug is also usually reserved for romantic partners. The woman puts her arms around the man’s neck while the man puts his arms around the woman’s waist. This hug is referred to as the dancefloor hug because this hug is usually performed while dancing.
Wandering Hands Hug – Typically performed between lovers, this hug involves exactly what the name suggests. The wandering hands hug is characterized by hands that roam around the back of the partner, gently caressing him or her for the duration of the hug.
Hugging Between Men and Women
Hugging between men and women can signify attraction or friendship, depending on the duration and type of hug. Women usually initiate hugging with men and are often expected to dictate the type of hug that will take place, as well as the duration of the hug. Women also typically desire more hugs, as well as other forms of affection, than men. There are even studies that women’s heart health may benefit more from hugs than men.
According to an article in the San Francisco Chronicle, research shows that the female brain naturally releases oxytocin, a “bonding” hormone, after a 20-second hug. The embrace bonds the two people involved and triggers the brain's trust circuits. Few types of hugs last long enough to trigger the brain’s trust circuits, unless it is between couples or a comforting hug. This same theory does not apply to male huggers.
Women Hugging Women
Women hug other women to express friendship and warmth. It is quite common and acceptable for women to hug other women frequently and for long durations. Many people consider hugging a “feminine” act and this is part of the reason why it is so acceptable for women to hug other women. The hug that takes place between women may also involve a kiss on the cheek and increased touching after the hug takes place.
Men Hugging Men
Depending on the culture, men typically avoid hugging other men, preferring to shake hands instead. When a hug does take place between two heterosexual males, however, the duration of the hug is usually short and bodily contact is limited.
Men typically engage in the handshake-hug, where the two participants hug and shake hands simultaneously. Only the shoulders and chest touch, with the still-clasped hands bound together between the chests, creating a buffer zone. This type of hug is punctuated by aggressive back slapping while the two are still in an embrace, as if to say “I have positive feelings for you, but I want to show it in a way that is masculine.”
Workplace Hugs
In an age of sexual harassment lawsuits, workplace hugs are becoming less common. According to a survey by the American Management Association, nearly half of all people called hugging “sexual harassment.” Handshaking is much more acceptable in the workplace and less likely to make someone feel uncomfortable. The bottom line is use your best judgment when trying to determine if it is acceptable to hug a coworker. It is almost never okay to hug a superior; however, hugging a coworker who is also a friend is often viewed as acceptable.
Some people consider hugging an art form and those who don’t still benefit from its ability to calm the nerves and deepen bonds. Always remember to use proper etiquette when engaging in a hug and use your best judgment when hugging someone for the first time. Hugging is a wonderful way to show someone you care and can have amazing effects of both people involved. Happy hugging!
I do not agree with all the different types of hugs, but it is still interesting.
The hand shake never made it to my hug list. It is just too formal and unemotional most of the time. But I have some male friends who are really uncomfortable with a tradional hug - so they will be happy that it is included in the hug list.
Any way - here is the article. I kept the by-line so credit is given to the author.
A Guide To Hugging
Learn Common Hugging Techniques And Etiquette
By Salena Quinn
A hug is a form of nonverbal communication and is the most common way to express love and affection. Everyone needs physical contact to survive, and hugging is an act of giving and receiving the support and love people need. The type of hug shared between two people can speak volumes about their relationship and can also strengthen bonds. Contrarily, a lack of hugs and other forms of physical affection can diminish the quality of romantic relationships and make some people experience increased emotional stress.
A hug is usually initiated by holding out one’s arms and waiting for the other person’s response. Don’t feel rejected if someone declines a hug. People have many different reasons for declining a hug, therefore there is no need to take it personally. Use the following guide to discover common hugging techniques and etiquette, and learn the difference between the way males and females hug.
Hug Etiquette
There are some basic, unwritten rules about hugging that most people are intuitively aware of. When deciding to hug or not to hug a person, refer to the following rules of hug etiquette:
-Always respect another person’s space.
-Ask permission before hugging someone, unless you are already on intimate terms with the person.
-Hug accordingly. Remember, there is a difference between a friendly hug and a passionate embrace. A hug between romantic partners is much different than a hug between two people who have just met.
-Never assume that it is okay to hug someone, even if you have hugged the person many times before.
-Practice good hygiene. Body odor can be offensive to the person you are embracing.
Types of Hugs
There are many different types of hugs that can be used in a plethora of situations. The type of hug two people partake in speaks volumes about their relationship. The duration of the hug, as well as the physical proximity of the two people involved determines the depth of the relationship. Below is a guide explaining common types of hugs, how to determine when it is appropriate to engage in each type of hug and instructions for performing each hug:
Me-Hug – Just as the name implies, this is a hug that you give to yourself. Simply wrap your arms around your torso and squeeze tightly.
Hand-Hug – This is the most common and frequently shared hug – a simple handshake. When in doubt about the appropriateness of hugging another person, simply extend your hand for a handshake. The hand hug is also the most appropriate form of affection in the workplace, used to congratulate or greet someone.
‘Hello’ Hug - This type of hug is usually employed when greeting a friend you have not seen for a while. This is the standard and most common type of non-intimate hug, usually lasting just a few seconds. This hug can be performed using one arm or two.
Bear Hug – A bear hug is a strong, full-body hug. This type of hug usually takes place between family members, close friends or lovers. The hugger and huggee wrap their arms tightly around each other and may rock back and forth while embracing to emphasize affectionate feelings. The duration of the hug tends to last a little longer than the standard hug, as well.
Cuddle – Cuddling involves hugging or embracing affectionately. The cuddle can also be described as a close, affectionate and prolonged embrace. Cuddling can involve stroking or caressing and is distinctive because of the duration of the hug. This type of hug typically occurs between children and adults, or lovers and can occur while sitting, standing or lying down.
Comforter – This type of hug is used to comfort someone close to the person. This hug is similar to the standard hug, however, it is distinctive because of its intensity and duration. This type of hug is usually performed by parents and close friends and is often used to console another person. The huggee may even rest his or her head on the shoulder or chest of the hugger for comfort.
Pound Hug – This type of hug is almost always performed between two males and is a combination between a handshake and a one-armed hug. The two participants aggressively slap each other on the back while embracing, as if to emphasize their masculinity. This type of hug usually lasts about one second. A hug lasting longer than a second usually makes the participants feel uncomfortable.
A-Frame Hug – This is where the two people sharing the embrace stand about a foot apart from each other and bend at the waist. Only the shoulders come into contact as the two people embrace. This type of hug is common between acquaintances or people who have just met.
Side-to-Side Hug –Two people stand next to one another, embracing around the waist or shoulders. Friends and lovers engage in this type of hug.
Cheek-to-Cheek Hug - This hug does not require the use of arms. Simply face the person you are hugging and press your cheek against his or her cheek briefly.
Reverse Hug – With the reverse hug, the hugger approaches the huggee from behind and puts his/her arms around the huggee’s waist. This type of hug is reserved for people who are in a romantic relationship.
Dancefloor Hug - This type of hug is also usually reserved for romantic partners. The woman puts her arms around the man’s neck while the man puts his arms around the woman’s waist. This hug is referred to as the dancefloor hug because this hug is usually performed while dancing.
Wandering Hands Hug – Typically performed between lovers, this hug involves exactly what the name suggests. The wandering hands hug is characterized by hands that roam around the back of the partner, gently caressing him or her for the duration of the hug.
Hugging Between Men and Women
Hugging between men and women can signify attraction or friendship, depending on the duration and type of hug. Women usually initiate hugging with men and are often expected to dictate the type of hug that will take place, as well as the duration of the hug. Women also typically desire more hugs, as well as other forms of affection, than men. There are even studies that women’s heart health may benefit more from hugs than men.
According to an article in the San Francisco Chronicle, research shows that the female brain naturally releases oxytocin, a “bonding” hormone, after a 20-second hug. The embrace bonds the two people involved and triggers the brain's trust circuits. Few types of hugs last long enough to trigger the brain’s trust circuits, unless it is between couples or a comforting hug. This same theory does not apply to male huggers.
Women Hugging Women
Women hug other women to express friendship and warmth. It is quite common and acceptable for women to hug other women frequently and for long durations. Many people consider hugging a “feminine” act and this is part of the reason why it is so acceptable for women to hug other women. The hug that takes place between women may also involve a kiss on the cheek and increased touching after the hug takes place.
Men Hugging Men
Depending on the culture, men typically avoid hugging other men, preferring to shake hands instead. When a hug does take place between two heterosexual males, however, the duration of the hug is usually short and bodily contact is limited.
Men typically engage in the handshake-hug, where the two participants hug and shake hands simultaneously. Only the shoulders and chest touch, with the still-clasped hands bound together between the chests, creating a buffer zone. This type of hug is punctuated by aggressive back slapping while the two are still in an embrace, as if to say “I have positive feelings for you, but I want to show it in a way that is masculine.”
Workplace Hugs
In an age of sexual harassment lawsuits, workplace hugs are becoming less common. According to a survey by the American Management Association, nearly half of all people called hugging “sexual harassment.” Handshaking is much more acceptable in the workplace and less likely to make someone feel uncomfortable. The bottom line is use your best judgment when trying to determine if it is acceptable to hug a coworker. It is almost never okay to hug a superior; however, hugging a coworker who is also a friend is often viewed as acceptable.
Some people consider hugging an art form and those who don’t still benefit from its ability to calm the nerves and deepen bonds. Always remember to use proper etiquette when engaging in a hug and use your best judgment when hugging someone for the first time. Hugging is a wonderful way to show someone you care and can have amazing effects of both people involved. Happy hugging!
Hugs
A warm embrace from a friend or family member can add loads of emotional fortitude to my soul. I am amazed at how easily a quick embrace and a few mumbled words positively affect me.
It is precisely because of this that I set out to hug those around me. It is an expression of wishing you well, of warm genuine feelings toward you, and an intentional positive energy exchange - it is love. Not that misguided self-indulgent and selfish - take from want something from you stuff. No, I am just giving you emotional genuine and warm personal support freely because I want to and I because I like you. Sometimes I hug because Jesus loves you, but always because I want to.
Do you know the guidelines for hugs? I found these on a website earlier.
Guidelines for Hugging
Be compassionate, not passionate -- communicate comfort and caring.
Ask for permission -- hugging requires a sender and receiver.
Accepting that hugging isn't for everyone is simply another form of understanding and acceptance.
Ask permission when you need a hug.
Hugging for wellness is a practice of sharing -- if you need a hug simply ask for one.
And if you receive a hug, let the sender know you are appreciative.
Take responsibility for expressing what you need.
I like it!
Just ask me and collect your hug. I believe the more hugs we receive in a day the stronger we are emotionally. If I could collect around 12 hugs a day and give away around 24 each day - wow that would change me! Wouldn't it change you?
I challenge you to hug often.
It is precisely because of this that I set out to hug those around me. It is an expression of wishing you well, of warm genuine feelings toward you, and an intentional positive energy exchange - it is love. Not that misguided self-indulgent and selfish - take from want something from you stuff. No, I am just giving you emotional genuine and warm personal support freely because I want to and I because I like you. Sometimes I hug because Jesus loves you, but always because I want to.
Do you know the guidelines for hugs? I found these on a website earlier.
Guidelines for Hugging
Be compassionate, not passionate -- communicate comfort and caring.
Ask for permission -- hugging requires a sender and receiver.
Accepting that hugging isn't for everyone is simply another form of understanding and acceptance.
Ask permission when you need a hug.
Hugging for wellness is a practice of sharing -- if you need a hug simply ask for one.
And if you receive a hug, let the sender know you are appreciative.
Take responsibility for expressing what you need.
I like it!
Just ask me and collect your hug. I believe the more hugs we receive in a day the stronger we are emotionally. If I could collect around 12 hugs a day and give away around 24 each day - wow that would change me! Wouldn't it change you?
I challenge you to hug often.
He and She
He and She
He brought her to church youth group and introduced her to all of us. A stranger who became an acquaintance. We watched her closely because he is loved and important to us. She was nice, friendly even, but was saying that she loved another man.
We reserved our feelings for another time, yet we embraced her and welcomed her into our group. She was cautious and reserved but laughed freely. We were watchful and careful so as not to seem judgmental.
We saw the way he looked at her, the glances that were not returned, his eyes seeking meaning as he gazed into her face and there met only smiling laughing and friendly eyes but no more.
He brought her to us when he could and we watched as their friendship grew. She grew fond of him but was still yearning for the company of another. He waited and patiently kept up the friendship absent of his desire hoping and praying that one day she would see in his eyes the depth of his feelings for her.
Seemed like forever and he was happy to be with her even if he could only be her friend. Some of us saw it earlier than others but there was a twinge of feeling expressed in her eyes and a spark of a distant love was present but hidden, and she denied it even to herself.
Then as hope and patience often do they brought reality to her and he experienced her love release cautiously and slowly but every bit as sweet as he had hoped and dreamt.
The day seemed brighter and now everyone noticed that something had changed, love was in the air. Full and unashamed feelings were freely expressed in private. Then the change was obvious in him. He was happy and excited free from the dark places where he kept his feelings as they now bubbled out and then flooded to her. The result was unavoidable and young love was free and we watched and enjoyed the frolicking and laughing and playing and holding and smiling and all that a heart can entice each one to live and do boldly.
Through all the valleys and dark places some light kept the shadows short; because love is in action and light is there when love acts.
We rejoice in the becoming of their love and celebrate with him and her; the joy in the relationship. He is more like a man now and she more like a woman and the love is deeper and sometimes quieter; but it is strong and it is certainly present.
A new chapter is now beginning, and she must leave for a time to prepare for future endeavors. Leaving him is hard and uncomfortable but is the right thing for now. He is staying in the place where their love blossomed and will see shadows of their love every where. It is the season when the flames of love burn to hot embers and only the coals are visible. But just like the fire after the long rain, a gust of wind will bring the flame licking up from the ash and give its light and heat once again; for love never gives up, love never goes cold, and for this season love will burn hot and deep in the coals and embers of their hearts until they are together again.
Brandon and Kate this story is my view of your summer of love. It is now winter in your season of love and I pray that you will remember that after winter comes spring when all is like new again. Distance and time apart will make the coals cold or fiery hot; and the choice is yours. (I hope you keep them red hot.)
This story is given to you as my hope and gift to you. I care about both of you and want the best for both of you.
It is with that in mind that I offer my prayers and my heart to you in Christ’s love for this season.
God has a plan for each of you and we are going to see Him work the next part out. Choose to put kindling on the fire of your love for each other each day and the embers will hold the flame until the time when you are together again. In His Service, Scott
He brought her to church youth group and introduced her to all of us. A stranger who became an acquaintance. We watched her closely because he is loved and important to us. She was nice, friendly even, but was saying that she loved another man.
We reserved our feelings for another time, yet we embraced her and welcomed her into our group. She was cautious and reserved but laughed freely. We were watchful and careful so as not to seem judgmental.
We saw the way he looked at her, the glances that were not returned, his eyes seeking meaning as he gazed into her face and there met only smiling laughing and friendly eyes but no more.
He brought her to us when he could and we watched as their friendship grew. She grew fond of him but was still yearning for the company of another. He waited and patiently kept up the friendship absent of his desire hoping and praying that one day she would see in his eyes the depth of his feelings for her.
Seemed like forever and he was happy to be with her even if he could only be her friend. Some of us saw it earlier than others but there was a twinge of feeling expressed in her eyes and a spark of a distant love was present but hidden, and she denied it even to herself.
Then as hope and patience often do they brought reality to her and he experienced her love release cautiously and slowly but every bit as sweet as he had hoped and dreamt.
The day seemed brighter and now everyone noticed that something had changed, love was in the air. Full and unashamed feelings were freely expressed in private. Then the change was obvious in him. He was happy and excited free from the dark places where he kept his feelings as they now bubbled out and then flooded to her. The result was unavoidable and young love was free and we watched and enjoyed the frolicking and laughing and playing and holding and smiling and all that a heart can entice each one to live and do boldly.
Through all the valleys and dark places some light kept the shadows short; because love is in action and light is there when love acts.
We rejoice in the becoming of their love and celebrate with him and her; the joy in the relationship. He is more like a man now and she more like a woman and the love is deeper and sometimes quieter; but it is strong and it is certainly present.
A new chapter is now beginning, and she must leave for a time to prepare for future endeavors. Leaving him is hard and uncomfortable but is the right thing for now. He is staying in the place where their love blossomed and will see shadows of their love every where. It is the season when the flames of love burn to hot embers and only the coals are visible. But just like the fire after the long rain, a gust of wind will bring the flame licking up from the ash and give its light and heat once again; for love never gives up, love never goes cold, and for this season love will burn hot and deep in the coals and embers of their hearts until they are together again.
Brandon and Kate this story is my view of your summer of love. It is now winter in your season of love and I pray that you will remember that after winter comes spring when all is like new again. Distance and time apart will make the coals cold or fiery hot; and the choice is yours. (I hope you keep them red hot.)
This story is given to you as my hope and gift to you. I care about both of you and want the best for both of you.
It is with that in mind that I offer my prayers and my heart to you in Christ’s love for this season.
God has a plan for each of you and we are going to see Him work the next part out. Choose to put kindling on the fire of your love for each other each day and the embers will hold the flame until the time when you are together again. In His Service, Scott
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